Nigerian artist Temilade Openiyi, popularly known as Tems, has candidly shared that she has never experienced being in love.
In a recent interview with Flow with Korty, the 28-year-old singer expressed her belief that love is not a feeling to be encountered mindlessly, but rather something to be pursued with deliberate intent and full awareness.
Tems noted that she has never felt a deep romantic connection for anyone, suggesting that many people might confuse infatuation with genuine love. She explained, “I haven’t been in love. Loving someone for me is more about seeing them clearly and still choosing to be a part of their life. Even when they annoy you, you still choose them.”
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She further elaborated on her desire to experience a profound and genuine connection, stating, “I would like to be in love, to feel something deep and real, not blind. I don’t believe love is blind. If you really love someone, you love them with your eyes wide open.”
Tems highlighted the distinction between infatuation and true love, emphasizing that love involves accepting someone fully, flaws and all. “People often get infatuated and mistake it for falling in love. If you’re blind, that’s not love. Love is when you see the person completely, with all their imperfections, and still want to be with them. I want someone to see all of me and still choose me,” she concluded.
This interview provides a glimpse into Tems’ personal philosophy on love and relationships, shedding light on her deep and thoughtful approach to romantic connections.